Imma get a little personal up in here. Why? As a health coach, it’s my job to create a safe space for vulnerability because it’s only when all the cards are out on the table that we can truly start the healing process.
In corporate, we say ‘You can’t change what you can’t measure’. In my personal life and Ayurvedic coaching practice, I say ‘You can’t change what you can’t be real about’. So, in that spirit, I’m going to get real with you.
Back in May, I honestly thought my life was falling apart. If you’ve been following me for a while, you probably noticed that I pretty much fell off the face of the planet during that time. I told my Facebook group (the Worn-Out to Warrior Sisterhood) that I needed to take an indefinite hiatus from admin duties and would likely be off all social media for the foreseeable future. Thankfully (and not surprisingly because all the women in that group are amazing), everyone was supportive and told me to do what I needed to do to get well.
So I went dark. For a full month, I was off social media 100%. I deleted the FB app from my phone. And didn’t check it via desktop. Facebook was the primary way I engaged with my clients, put myself out there in hopes of engaging with new people who’d benefit from my work, etc. so there was a huge risk to my business doing this…but I knew it was necessary.
And you know what happened?
I felt myself become lighter. A lot of people report withdrawal symptoms when they do a Digital Detox for the first time (especially with social media) but I didn’t have any of that. I was more of the ‘Burn it all to the ground’ mindset which helped. But I felt myself a lot lighter, energetically. And I started to notice a few things:
- More juicy connections with friends & family. With social media off the table, I began to reach out to people via email and text to schedule time with them and hear about their lives in real time. You know, old school IRL hang outs. Most people were thrilled and I started to wonder if we all hid behind social media because we’re scared of either being an annoyance or being rejected.
- I stopped waking up instantly anxious and depressed. I realized that the first thing I did every morning, even before getting out of bed, was check my social media and email to see if my clients needed anything from me. But, overtime, I spent more and more time on Facebook and all the stories of the latest horrors filled my freshly awake eyeballs and psyche. OMG this is such a terrible habit and, for me, it set me on a path to white-knuckling through the day…all day. My intentional Digital Detox broke that habit right quick. But here’s the key, I didn’t just sleep longer to fill the time. I filled that time with meditation, more time with my dog, some yoga, whatever felt good in the moment. It’s not enough to cut out bad habits…you need to replace them with sustainable nourishing NEW habits so you don’t revert back.
- My confidence came back. Most of us can cope with one crisis at a time. I had about 5 happen all at once. And I just about lost it. I thought ‘What am I doing coaching others out of burnout when my life is falling apart? I’m a fraud!’ No, I wasn’t a fraud…I just had the Universe deal me a really rough hand and temporarily lost sight of my own wellness and self-care practice. I knew I had to double-down on the methods I knew work (meditation, yoga, good food, setting boundaries, etc.) If anything, being real about all this made me a BETTER coach because I had a booster shot of empathy for people when we first start working together. Over time, my confidence came back. I’m far enough away from those events that I can see the silver lining (but would prefer not to go through that again!).
All of that just from deleting FB and staying off social media for a month?! You betcha.
Everyone’s Digital Detox needs are different but if any of the results I shared above are enticing, I encourage you to get in touch with me. Don’t let the pride of being a badass boss keep you from giving yourself the gift of health. We all need a hand now and then. I’ve got TWO for ya! 🙂
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