Greetings Divine Ones,
Wow, what a week, right? I don’t know about you but my heart is sad and my soul is aching for the world right now. So much violence. So much hate. So much separation and the illusion of ‘otherness’.
So, what do we do? Ayurvedic wisdom has a lot to say about grief processing and I wanted to share some of it with all of you.
Everyone experiences grief, sadness, and loss differently and when we experience trauma (emotional or physical), our dominant dosha (Vata, Pitta, or Kapha) tends to take the wheel. We may fall into old coping patterns like sleeping too much or too little, eating too much or too little, hyperactivity, etc. So the first thing to do is follow Vanilla Ice’s advice: Stop, collaborate, and listen.
What am I feeling?
What do I need?
Even asking yourself these questions is an act of self-love! I often recommend my clients set a few alarms per day and when they go off to stop and ask those two questions. Sometimes the answer is ‘I’m feeling hungry. I need a snack.’ Other times it’s ‘I’m feeling lost. I need support from loved ones.’
From there, we start to move into practical easy things to ease us to a place of balance and peace. Ayurveda calls it Sattva. When processing grief and trauma, it is important to be extra gentle and kind to our bodies and spirits. Some ideas:
- Give yourself a daily Abhyanga (oil massage). Rub sesame or coconut oil on your hands and feet before bed (maybe with some lavender oil) and prepare for restful sleep.
- Focus on eating warm nourishing foods. Avoid cold and raw foods.
- Do restorative yoga like viparita karani (legs up the wall pose).
There is so much more but this is a start. You may feel overwhelmed when grief suddenly visits you but know that you are loved. Be gentle and kind (to yourself most of all!) and, eventually, you’ll be standing tall again. (Caveat: this process is not linear so don’t be discouraged…and seek professional health if you need it!)
If you would like more information about anything discussed in this post, or would like to set up your own restorative yoga session, please reach out to me. I would be honored to hold space for you!
All my love,